Most women love footwear. To men it is just one of life’s little mysteries, something that just cannot be understood. There are many ladies who just cannot resist going out and buying a new pair of shoes even though she already has another dozen or so pairs back at home. Whether they are designer shoes, evening shoes (or even wedding shoes) is irrelevant. The only thing that matters is that she must have them because they will go with that certain outfit so well.
There has been many an argument between men and women over whether or not she really needs that three-figure pair of designer shoes or not. The safest policy for partners or husbands is to keep their opinions to themselves and to let her get on with it. The thing that bothers men most of all about the situation is that they just cannot understand why a women needs to keep buying different pairs of shoes. Men tend to think about things in a more practical manner and they just cannot see things from the woman’s point of view.
Bette Midler said, ‘Give a girl the right shoes and she can conquer the world.’ That is quite a statement but the lady obviously knew what she was talking about.
For a woman, an expensive pair of designer shoes can do wonders for her self-confidence. With the right footwear she can walk into that job interview believing that she has already got it. If she is wearing the pair of shoes that go so well with her little black dress then the handsome and popular guest at the party will be unable to resist her charms. In short, a woman’s shoes hold a near magical quality. They make her feel good about herself and boost her self-esteem.
So, when you are out shopping with your wife or partner and she insists on trying on an expensive pair of designer shoes think very carefully before saying anything to her. Try not to think too much about the price tag and do your best to forget that her wardrobe is already home to enough pairs of designer shoes to last a lifetime. Instead of the negative aspects (even if they do happen to be true) think about how good this new pair will make her feel. After all, you should enjoy treating her and it should be important to you that she feels good about herself.
There are many people who spend hundreds of pounds on self-help books, therapy sessions or dubious new-age style cures in a constant struggle to feel more positive about themselves. If you look at it in this way then the simple act of purchasing a pair of designer shoes is suddenly not such a big deal after all. In fact, perhaps more women should try doing it.
Besides, as a partner or husband, what is the point in you having that credit card if you don’t go out and use it once in a while?
Robert Holmes is a psychologist who has written a thesis correlating designer shoes with the happiness of women. For more information please visit http://www.bournecollection.com/
